The key to coexisting peacefully and effectively with political staffers is simple: each of you should understand the other's role
As every public servant knows, advisers on both sides of politics range from highly competent, agreeable people who work collaboratively with the bureaucracy, to rabid ideologues who regard public servants as something between beasts of burden and monstrous enemies. It’s a bell curve, like any slice of humanity, so most end up being somewhere in the middle.